Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before The Wedding Day


Good morning and happy Thursday! I’ve been writing wedding articles all week and I wanted to share a special one with you today on the blog.

My wedding was hands down the best day of my life. All of my closest friends and family were together to celebrate Johnny and I’s love for one another. We had the best time!

I think I can confidently say that the last thing I was on my wedding day was a “bridezilla”. When I woke up that morning, I had an overwhelming sense of peace about everything that was going to happen. Honestly, my one worry was that it was supposed to rain all day–but thankfully there was never even a drop.

After the festivities were over and Johnny and I were heading to our honeymoon, we took some time to reflect on the day, because we really only spent half of it together with a million people around us. While everything was perfect (and I still believe that to be true!) in my eyes, there were things that I wished someone would have told me about what actually happens on your wedding day. I have a lot of girlfriends who are recently engaged or almost engaged, and I want to share a few of those with you this morning.


You’re Going to Forget Something

I swear to you, no matter how many lists I made, it did not matter. As I walked through the day, I noticed all the little details that I wanted to do for the reception or to put in the church, but it inevitably didn’t happen. We planned our wedding from across the country, only coming to Michigan a few times before the wedding for meetings with vendors or dress alterations. Thankfully, they were such small items that it couldn’t ruin our day.

Because of the nerves, it’s easy to forget to drink water or even eat. I’m so grateful for my amazing matron-of-honor who would not let me leave the room without taking a swig of water or chewing on a carrot. Don’t forget to take care of yourself this day.

Something Might Go Wrong

This is really out of your control, because you can’t control everyone’s actions. It’s better to go into the day with lowered expectations so that when something does go wrong, it’s not going to ruin your day. Or, if you’re lucky like me, something might go wrong and you won’t know about it because you have amazing people around you who fix the problem for you. There were a few things that I only found out about weeks after the wedding–and I’m so grateful it happened that way.

You’re Probably Going to be Kinda Annoyed With Someone in the Bridal Party

Someone, for the love, is going to forget that it’s YOUR wedding day. Depending on the situation,  just give a lot of grace. Take a deep breath, and move forward. The actual wedding is an event that happens and then it’s gone. It isn’t important, but the marriage is.



The Time Flies By

One moment, I was sitting in my bed, the next in the chair getting my hair done, the next seeing Johnny, the next leaving the reception. It was unbelievable. Johnny and I looked at each other as we were pulling away from the reception thinking, “how is it over already?!”. I wish Johnny and I took the time to really look around the room and soak in the entire experience.

A First “Look” Might Have Been a Good Idea

I know it breaks tradition, and I totally get that, but I think my nerves would have been a lot calmer if I could have just seen Johnny and talked through what was about to happen. I’ve seen where people blindfold the groom so he can’t see you, and I wish we would have done something like that. We really never had a moment alone that day–and it was a day just for us.

A Wedding is Exhausting

I literally could not stop smiling all day. At the the end of the night, my cheeks were so sore. Johnny and I had our wedding in Michigan, so we were already feeling the two hour time difference from Colorado, plus I stayed up the night before the wedding til about 2 AM making sure everything at the reception was perfect. I feel like I paid for that during our honeymoon. We slept an ungodly amount, and I came home with a cold because my body had had enough. Really take the time to get an adequate amount of rest.


Thanks for reading this morning! I hope you have a fantastic Thursday. I’m thankful for each and every one of you who take the time to read these posts, because I love sharing with you.

Always, Aleesha

*photography by Imogen Works Photography

4 thoughts on “Things I Wish Someone Told Me Before The Wedding Day

  1. Thank you for sharing this!!! I’m getting married in June 🙂 I’m sure it’s hard to go in with low expectations (after all it’s your WEDDING day!!!) but I’m going to try to take your advice and just let it be. I’m so excited after reading this!!


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